Borrowed husbands = more money, more wine

April 28th, 2011

Sandra Oldfield, Winemaker and Owner, Tinhorn Creek Vineyards had to borrow a husband.  Her own husband in fact.

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry as Sandra talked about being a newbie female winemaker and vineyard owner who needed a bank loan, regaling myself and others during the Forum for Women Entrepreneur’s gala event. When she started out as a vineyard owner it was rare to have a female at the helm.  The banks wouldn’t take her seriously.  And she seriously needed some cash.

Enter husband.

She had her husband stand next to her during the bank negotiations for a loan. It worked. She got the cash and some 15 years later she’s still successfully at it.

Talk about taking perspective into your own hands.  Wonder if she still has to take her husband to the bank?

Want some more perspective from women in wine?  Check out the video below.

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Perspective on public peeing – are public toilets a gift?

April 26th, 2011

Skip to the loo  – why public toilets matter is a fascinating article by Michael Harris in the Walrus magazine.

Have you ever been caught needing to use a public toilet and yet not being able to find one?

Ever talked your way into a restaurant bathroom, a restaurant that you weren’t eating at and weren’t supposed to be using their bathroom?

Ever been traveling and REALLY had to go and didn’t know how to ask in the local language where the bathroom was?

Ever been faced with a toilet in another country that you weren’t exactly sure how to use?

I’ve been faced with all those situations, situations I’ve found myself in because of being privileged …. privileged to be able to speak in such a way that I could convince an ornery bathroom gatekeeper, privileged enough to be able to travel, privileged enough to be wearing clothes that weren’t weeks in need of a wash.

Imagine if you couldn’t.  You couldn’t access a public washroom.  Either because they didn’t exist in your community or because you were denied entry because of the way you looked and dressed and perhaps smelled.

Imagine.

It’s perspective changing.

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Can you sum up your life philosophy in a song? Bella can – listen up.

April 21st, 2011

I had a stroke two years ago, my memory’s not so good.  When I get down I simply sing…

And with that I was introduced to the remarkable woman that is Mrs. Bella Kelly.

I met Bella while working in a tiny Northern Ontario community where she’s currently living, though she originally hails from Newfoundland.  Her daughter, Cathy Ann does community engagement work and there’s nothing so engaging as watching the two of them together.

Cathy Ann leaves a note on the kitchen counter when she’s out, with Bella’s schedule, to help prevent confusion.  A sample: 2:00 – 4:00 – Mom relaxes, 4:00 Cathy Ann will be home, 4:30 Mom goes to the community Feast

And so it goes, with a sometimes shaky grasp on the wispy bits of lived memories that forms a person’s life, Bella stays anchored in the present.  If you ever get the chance to meet her, pull up a chair.  She has a smile for everyone who crosses her path.  You won’t have to wait long until she breaks out into song.

If only we were all so wise.  A little faith, one day at a time, makes a big difference in perspective.

And yes, she really is that charming in person.

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What’s more complicated – flying a plane or juggling three TV remotes?

April 19th, 2011

The house is quiet.  I am on vacation, alone (temporarily) in rented digs.  I have satellite television.  Three unusual happenstances.

Eagerly I grab the remote and start searching for a good show to watch.  I search.  I flounder.

I can’t turn the TV on.  So I change tactics and switch remotes.

Three remotes later I need a glass of wine.  Not sure if it is the wine or the pigheadedness I show as I doggedly (as I mix my animals) pursue my goal but eventually I turn on the TV and the satellite and manage to maneuver both to a good show.  At this point I am almost too tired to watch!

A few days later finds me in a tiny plane flying to a remote community to lead a workshop on being a leader in a multicultural community.  As we wing our way through the vastness that is Northern Ontario I gaze at the cockpit.

I have a double take.

The controls in the cockpit look about as confusing as the remotes.

Of course they aren’t, but to my untrained eye they look about the same.

And so it is with perspective.  How much do we take in?  Do we really need 150 buttons on 3 combined three remotes?  Who uses 95% of those buttons?

To what degree do we need to tailor our communication for our intended audience – ramping up the complexity if required, or more often than not, culling and simplifying (without being simplistic) as we go.

Perspective – it’s an elusive companion.

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