Pickled perspective on powers of persuasion & assimilation

September 13th, 2011

Chances are you have a jar of pickles buried at the back of your fridge.  Did you know pickles were once at the heart of immigrant identities and cultural tension?  If we can be so far off the mark with pickles, imagine how else our perspectives might be narrow and constricting.

A century ago in New York City, Jane Ziegelman writes in the New York Times, “politicians, public health experts and social reformers were alarmed by what they saw as immigrants’ penchant for highly seasoned cooking.”   Consuming these foods led to “nervous, unstable people.”

“No immigrant food was more reviled than the garlicky, vinegary pickle.  Pungent beyond all civilized standards, toxic to both the stomach and the psyche, the pickle was seen as morally suspect.”

Charity workers, nurses and well-intentioned New Yorkers were appalled by what mostly Jewish and Eastern European immigrants were eating.

Pickles were even viewed as a stimulant and as “a compulsion for those too young to drink alcohol.”

As Jane concludes, “Our powers of assimilation are greater than we know.  We can speak Spanish [or French], eat sushi and still be American [or Canadian].  The proof is in the pickle.”

What’s your perspective, pickled or otherwise?

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This light never turns green (& other complaints from Go Life Lenses™)

September 8th, 2011

This photo made me laugh out loud – it’s a perpetual complaint self-assessed Go Life Lenses™ have of Stop Life Lenses™.

Do you know someone who always wants to think things over for a loooooong time before taking action?  Wants to read just 5 more reports before making a decision?  Needs to ruminate, debate, theorize and endlessly reflect?

Likely they are a Stop Life Lens™ – oriented towards reflection rather than action.

Likely also means that you’re a Go Life Lens™ – oriented towards action rather than reflection.   (You have your sore points too, we’ll get to that in another post.)

If you’re a Go Life Lens™ working or living with a Stop Life Lens™ here are some tips for smoothing out rough waters:

  • don’t ask a Stop Life Lens™ to make a decision quickly because their default decision will be ‘No!’
  • if you do have a legitimate reason for asking a Stop Life Lens™ to take action in a hurry, acknowledge that you understand they’d ideally like more time
  • ask a Stop Life Lens™ to identify three key pieces of information they need in order to be able to move forward (e.g. put a limit on things)
  • acknowledge a Stop Life Lens’™ ability to prevent running headlong over a cliff – their caution can save your impetuous hide!
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Back to the future – what would your former self have to say about your current self

September 6th, 2011

Irina Werning, a brilliant Buenos Aires photographer was inspired to ‘re-enact’ old photos of people.  She asked friends and family to turn back time & have themselves photographed as they were in old pictures.  The ongoing project is called “Back to the Future.”

It got me thinking …. what would your former self have to say about your current self?  What would the young girl above have to say to the woman she grew into?

What would your ten year old self say to your current self?  What words of advice would your 18 year old self have?

Like the impish grin below, what’s remained consistent with you?

How has your perspective changed over time?  For me, I notice as my teenage son grows deeper into teenagehood, it gives me more perspective on what it may have been like for my mom to parent me.  What seemed unjust at the time perhaps has another side.

Our perspective has a deep and unyielding frame around it.  The frame is affected by our age, gender, ethnicity, nationality, beliefs etc.  The frame affects what we see, what we ignore, what we deem important and what we dismiss.  The frame affects our worldview.

Step out of frame and a whole new perspective opens up.

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What’s behind door #1? Self-awareness & perspective

September 1st, 2011

My good friend Michelle recently said in an email …

“‘Go where the door is open’ and it occurred to me – that – that’s what you did Lee-Anne – you opened the door.”

And as I’m sitting here writing this post, from my new home in Kenya, I’m thinking a lot about doors.  Which to say yes and throw open with abandon and which to say no and keep locked shut.

Michelle also inspired a recent post (she’s an incredible muse) called ‘Oh, that I could shrink the surface of the world (for some perspective)…’   It’s about what causes distance between people.  For this post I’ve put the two together – here’s to door openings that decrease the distance between our hearts and heads.

  • If distance is not feeling understood or worse, feeling deliberately misunderstood, then opening a door is seeking understanding.  It can be extremely difficult to find understanding but often just the seeking reduces distance.
  • If distance is not being able to understand, despite standing on your head for trying, then opening a door is acknowledging the confusion and finding comfort in chaos.
  • If distance is not resonating, not relating, not clicking with someone, then opening a door is continuing to search for similarities that are significant.
  • If distance is feeling like your colleagues are speaking a foreign language, then opening a door is seeking clarification.
  • If distance is feeling like you’re being denied the secret code of inclusion, then opening a door is deciding if you’re with the right tribe or not.
  • If distance is feeling more uncomfortable than an ice cube on a hot summer’s day, then opening a door is acknowledging your discomfort.  There’s power in vulnerability.
  • If distance is thinking you got it, but realizing you didn’t, then opening a door is admitting your gaffe with humour and grace.
  • If distance is feeling awkward and being embarrassed, then opening a door is taking a deep breath (or 17 as my friend Dyana Valentine says) and remembering no one ever died from embarrassment.

Because after all, the view from one side of the door can look incredibly different from the other side.  Here’s to the view that self-awareness and perspective brings.

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